Decisions, decisions…

Some things I’ve learned making some decisions (today)…

Decision making is hard… it literally consumes (mental) energy…

Especially when you I dont feel like I have enough data to inform my decision… I hate the feeling of feeling forced to make lasting decisions without so much as an idea as to the basic opportunity costs…

I especially get frustrated when it feels like someone is trying to back me up into a certain decision.. taking away my freedom of choice and ability to see for myself if its the right or desired decision…

I hesitate sometimes… more than that, I get anxious and aggravated and even a bit neurotic, my nerves frazzled, in cases of big or hard decisions with a lack of information or support…

But my idea of support is in-and-of-itself an appeal for information… for data gathering. I hate when people just say stuff like ‘Oh its your choice. Do what you want to do.’ or ‘You can do it’ or whatever… that tells me approximately nothing. It helps me get nowhere. It does not provide any ideas on the bad or the good. My idea of support means some kind of pros/cons discussion; some kind of conversation in which we go back-n-forth about things to consider. Otherwise, there’s not point asking for help on the decision if I only get (practically) empty words.

But sometimes I fear that Im just hesitating for no reason… that I’m making the choice harder than it has to be. Perhaps the costs arent even as high as Im making them out to be. Perhaps the benefits are way higher than I can adequately estimate from my lowly position. Perhaps its just my inherent cognitive bias, fearing change and risks and (mis)perceived negativity/faults that hold me back.

Either way… whatever the friction points… only thing that matters is if I make a choice that I can live with. Even if make a ‘wrong decision’… as long as its not wrong with me, than I know I can deal with whatever happens.

Because at the end of the day, at the end of my days, all I will be able to remember is whether or not I regretted that decision.

So that’s what drives me. That is what helps me make better decisions with real confidence… not living a life of regret.

Decide what is right by realizing what feels right.